BRINGING A CHILD IS VERY RISKY AFFAIR, SO HOW TO BECOME MOTHER OR FATHER

To become a mother is one of the greatest responsibilities in the world. Men or a father are a little freer in their way because they cannot take the responsibility of becoming a mother. Women have more responsibility.

So many women want to be mothers but they don't know how to be...remember!

"Once the relationship between the mother and the child goes wrong, the child's whole life goes wrong... because that is his "first CONTACT" with the world, his first relationship, everything else will be in continuity with it. And if the first step goes wrong, the whole life goes wrong... Please imbibe and be serious about it."

One should become a mother knowingly. You are taking on one of the greatest responsibilities that human being can take.
Men are a little freer in that way because they cannot take the responsibility of becoming a mother. Women have more responsibility... So;

"Become a mother, but don't take it for
granted that just being a woman one is necessarily a
mother,..that is wrong and fallacy." Remember!

"Motherhood is a great art, you have
to learn it. So start learning about it... Now!"

A few things I would like to say to you as mother and father... being a parents...

First never treat the child as yours;
Never possess the child... The child comes through you, but it is not yours. God has only used you as a vehicle... 'POSSESSION'. Remember!

"LOVE, but never possess the child".

If the mother , the father starts possessing the child, then the life is destroyed. The child starts becoming a prisoner. You are destroying his personality and you are reducing him to a thing or a commodity.

Only a thing can be possessed... that is without life;
"A house can be possessed... a car,
a shoes ect."

Remember! Never a person. So, this is a first lesson.
Get ready for it:

Before a child comes you should be able to greet him as an independent being, as a person in his own right, not just your child.

And the second thing:
Treat the child as you would treat a...
'GROWN-UP' person.

Never treat a child like a child. Treat a child with deep respect. God has chosen you to be a 'HOST'. The child is very fragile... helpless. Remember!

It is very difficult to respect the child, but it is very easy to humiliate the child. Humiliation comes very easy because the child is helpless and cannot do anything... Cannot retaliate cannot react. So, treat the child as a grown-up and with great respect. Once you respect the child, you don't try to impose anything your ideas on him. You don't try to impose anything on the child. You simply give him a freedom... freedom to explore the world. You help him to become more and more powerful in exploring the world but you never give him directions. Remember!

"You are giving him energy, you give
him protection, you give him security.. All that he needs,
but you help him to go farther away from you to explore
the world."

And of course in freedom the wrong is also included. It is very difficult for a mother to learn that when you give freedom to a child it is not freedom only to do good. So make the child... 'alert'... intelligent.

Never give him any commandments... nobody keeps them, and people become hypocrites. So, if you really love the child, then one thing has to be remembered:

"Never , never help him in any way,
or forcing him in any way to become a hypocrite."

And the third thing:

Be natural... listen to nature. Whatsoever is natural is good... If your mind is good, nothing wrong with this world. Even if sometimes it is very difficult for you, very uncomfortable for you... because you have not been brought up according to nature. We now being a parents. Our parents were not bringing up with real art, 'LOVE'... It was just an accidental thing. Don't repeat the same mistakes. Many times you will feel very uneasy...

Never interfere with the child, let nature take its own course. You are there to facilitate whatsoever nature is unfolding... Remember!

"You are not to direct nature...
be natural, you are just to be as a help."

So, this three things... Start meditating. Before the child is born, you should go as deeply as possible. When the child is within your womb, whatsoever you are doing continuously goes as a vibration to the child...Example:

If you are angry, your stomach has a tension of anger. The child immediately feels it. When you are sad, your stomach has an atmosphere of sadness. Immediately the child feels dull... depressed. The child totally depends on you. Whatsoever is your mood is the mood of the child.

That's why I say that to be a mother is a great responsibility... The mother have to sacrifice much.

If from the very beginning anger, hatred, conflict, enters into the child's mind.., then you are causing hell for him, he will suffer...

"Then it is better not to bring a child
into the world. Why bring a child into suffering?"

The world is tremendous suffering. In the first place bringing a child into this world is a very risky affair. But even if you want that.., at least bring a child who will be totally different in this world. Who will not be miserable, who will at least help the world to be a little more celebrating.., that will bring a little more festivity into the world.., a little more laughter.., love, life.

Dear Readers!
Please forward to all your friends the so called father and mother. Also to prospect husband and wife for the betterment of their home not the house. My next coming article I will talk more about.., home and house.
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From Empty Hands,
A. Rahman Bin Mahadi
Labis, Johore
016-6020321

14 OCTOBER 2009

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