PAY SPECIAL ATTENTION FOR AGED PARENTS (FATHER AND MOTHER)

Do children owe any legal liability to care for old and disabled parents? Unfortunately the answer is 'No'.

As parents age, it is inevitable that their bodies will gradually weaken and deteriorate in a variety of ways, making them increasingly susceptible to physical illnesses that can affect every organ in their system. As the realization grows that there is no escape, the aging individual must try to find some way to come to terms with the disturbing new reality.

Filial piety is an important factor in caring for the aged in our traditional Asian society. As Asians it has long been the norm for us to accommodate and nurse the aged parents in our own homes as far as possible.

Parents simply have to depend on the goodwill of their children. Although we are proud about our values, and cultural heritage, unfortunately the number of elderly citizen with no savings and abandoned by their families is growing in Asian.

The problem for us to consider is whether our values, including filial devotion and reciprocal of a breakdown in traditional family relations and a changed economic and demographic profile.

Cramped flats and sguatter houses are not places which are conducive to the accommodation of aged parents. There have been numerous in which old people have been neglected by their children or their relatives. This is a sad situation where good values and traditions are no longer practiced.

Welfare homes and their environment for the most part are also not places which are conducive to the accommodation of aged parents. Of all living alternatives, placement in and "Old Folks Home is without doubt the most sensitive issue often provoking guilt through self accusations of ingratitude", lack of devotion or filial piety and abandonment.

A nursing home, although somewhat expensive, offers the most satisfactory alternatives. Each person must decide for himself and understand that there are no perfect choices. While long term institutionalization is a painful issue, it is essential to provide appropriate care for a debilitated parent.

Placement in a nursing facility does not mean "putting your good parent away", or at least it shouldn't. Family involvement remains essential for proper care, from the first steps of choosing the facility, to maintaining an ongoing relationship with the staff. To regularly visiting the parent and involving him or her in family matters. They need cheering up and to know that there are people who really care for them.

Certain irresponsible persons with ill or aged parents get them admitted into third class wards of hospitals, leaving false addresses and just disappear from the scene. This indeed is a most cruel way of disposing of one's own aged parents.

A caring attitude as well as concern for the aged parents must prevail if the older generation is not to be adversely affected by the rapid socio-economic changes of urbanization and industrialization. It has to be realized that the aged are more affected by these changes and the degradation of moral values in society. It should also encompass the responsible manner in which the elderly are treated, cared for, respected and honoured.

This aspect of caring for the aged parents requires collective responsibility. It will also instill respect for the elderly as "there is no better institution to care for the aged parents other than the family itself".

In many discourses I always advised children and friends to pay special attention to father and mother.

Please remember! There is and old adage which says:

"Take good care of your parents for you will never know how much you miss them when they are gone."


From Empty Hands,
A. Rahman bin Mahadi
Labis, Johore
016-6020321

28 DECEMBER 2010

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